How do you combat hair looking limp/stiff? My hair is very soft to the touch, but it looks very limp. Thank you! —by Anonymous

Hey :-) Two things you should try considering are:

  1. What do the individual strands of your hair look like (Fine/medium/coarse)?
  2. What kind of products are you using? And how much of them? 

For question number one: If your hair looks limp and it feels very soft, it is most likely that your hair is fine—where the diameter of each individual strand is thin and almost looks translucent. Coarse hair has the tendency to look wiry and dry to the touch, is usually able to hold more styles and naturally have more body & “bounce”. (Click here to read an informative post about this). In this case, if you do have fine hair, you would need to look into different techniques and using products that will provide your hair with more volume and body—such as using lighter or water-based products, rather than using heavy butters or oils to help combat the problem. You could even do protein conditioners, which help strengthen the strands and give fine hair more body. 

For question number two: Perhaps, you could be using the wrong products and/or too much of a certain product that is weighing your hair down and building up on the hair (and therefore, clarifying is needed). I know that when I have product buildup, my (coarse) hair does not get weighed down. But instead, it dries the heck out, and the style won’t last. However, I do believe that it’s different for fine hair, where instead it gets weighed down from product buildup. This also goes back to question number one—assessing the individual strands of your hair. 

I hope that helps!

If anyone else has any input on this topic (especially fine-haired naturals), include it below :-)

Do you know any cheap products to use for twist outs? —by Anonymous

Hey! I do completely understand that many of these products are very costly. Some products have crazy expensive price tags, yet feature mediocre, synthetic ingredients—no shade intended, but I’m just speaking the truth!

Of course, you can never ever go wrong with a homemade whipped shea butter mix for twist outs! That will give you great hold, and save you some serious cash. Another great benefit to making whipped shea butter is that you can change up the consistency and the contents to however you like to help fit your needs. If you’d like, you can check out my DIY recipe, here.

But if you’re not much of a mixtress, then here are a few inexpensive options below. Each have great reviews and are no more than $10:

* - Please take note that the three products with asterisks next to them do have ingredients (ex. dimethicone) that build up on the hair overtime if hair is not properly clarified. Though they have great reviews, do use discretion :-) 

If any one else has suggestions for cheap products for styling, please leave them below :-)

I was tagged in the "six selfies where I felt the most beautiful" by aroyalmind and thatkidwiththenaps

I honestly used to hate taking pictures and smiling back in the day—during the days where I picked at every single flaw I thought I had (including my overbite). But clearly, that isn’t the case anymore :-)

DIY All-Natural Whipped Shea Butter

It was time to make more of my homemade shea butter mix. Whipped shea butter is my number one staple product in keeping my thick, coarse hair very moisturised and I also use it to keep my skin super soft and supple. I’ve been asked quite a few times on here about what that mix consists of, so I finally got around to it and share it! I also decided to try the ivory shea butter as opposed to the yellow variety this time. I have found that the ivory shea butter is a lot less greasier than the yellow, and it is much, much less grainier. This was also my best shea butter mix by far. The texture is smooth and creamy, with a thick consistency—like cake batter. I love it!


  1. 1/2 cup raw unrefined ivory shea butter
  2. 1/4 cup organic extra virgin coconut oil 
  3. 1 tbsp extra virgin olive oil
  4. 1 tbsp jojoba oil 
  5. 1/2 tbsp of grapseed oil (optional)
  6. 1/2 tbsp castor oil (optional)
  7. 7 drops of rosemary essential oil

Tip: If you do not have an electric mixer, you can whip the shea butter manually with a spoon (like I did) or a hand mixer—but the key thing about this is that you must make sure that both the coconut oil and the shea butter are at room temperature (ie. shea butter feels soft, coconut oil is somewhat melted) to make stirring everything easier. 

I hope that helps!

Wash Day Routine | Kinky Curly Natural Hair
It was a struggle trying to film this, lol! But for those of you who’ve asked about my wash day regimen, here it is. New video! I hope this helps. If you’ve any questions, let me know!

Wash Day Routine | Kinky Curly Natural Hair

It was a struggle trying to film this, lol! But for those of you who’ve asked about my wash day regimen, here it is. New video! I hope this helps. If you’ve any questions, let me know!

Hey ! Sadly my hair thinned probably cause chlorine in pool :( How can I get my hair thicker again? Also,if you already have thick hair, how can you make it extra thicker? —by Anonymous

Hey! I’m really sorry about that :-(

First to clarify this: The actual density of hair depends on genetics. You cannot change the amount of hair follicles that your head produces. You can however, reduce hair shedding or breakage (tea rinses, moisturising your hair has needed, etc) to prevent thinning, and incorporate ways of thickening individual strands of hair such as deep conditioning your hair regularly or protein treatments to strengthen the the hair strands so that it gives hair more of a voluminous, fuller appearance. 

Also, I think that before wanting to consider how to get your hair to thicken back up, I would first consider taking preventative and/or immediate measures before and after swimming so that your hair can properly recuperate. I am by no means a swimmer or an expert on this matter, but please note that chlorine can caused hair breakage—-in that if it is not washed out especially if you swim often, it builds up on the hair and can cause such breakage/thinning to happen). 

I would first look into clarifying your hair to remove the chlorine, following up with a deep conditioner to help restore the moisture.

Nikisha of UrbanBushBabes had a post about 5 tips to protect your hair before and after swimming. She mentions that immediately after you swim, the hair must be clarified to get rid of the chlorine.  She suggested looking to doing an all-natural clarifying wash with Apple Cider Vinegar and (1/4 ACV w/ 2 cups water), and deep conditioning afterwards with a moisturising deep conditioner. Read her other tips here

Also, there is a shampoo by Aubrey Organics, called Swimmers Shampoo, and it contains organic rice extract—which is designed specifically for gently remove chlorine or salt water from the hair. They also have a conditioner to follow up with the shampoo. 

Here are some other helpful links to protect yourself from chlorine or salt water:

  1. BlackGirlLongHair had a very  useful, well-written article two years ago on how to protect your hair from chlorine and salt water. Be sure to check out the comments sections—it is helpful, too! You can click here to read the article.
  2. Whitney (Naptural85) also has a video about swimming with natural hair. You can click here to watch it :-)

I hope that helps! x

Just wow! I get on BlackGirlLongHair just now to read new content, and I see that one of my videos was featured in this article. I am in shock, so excuse me lol. Also, definitely check out the other videos included in this awesome post :-)

Side note: new video coming today! I’ve invested in better lighting this time, too <3 

"Basics of Protein Conditioners

A protein treatment has different protein properties that attach directly to the hair follicle and harden the cuticle layer. This places a barrier around the follicle, which protects it from further damage. There are four types of protein conditioner treatments: protein packs, reconstructors, deep penetrating treatments, and light protein treatments….”

- via JustCurlz

This post contains good information on differentiating protein treatments and choosing the right one for you. It also includes product suggestions for each type of treatment. Check it out! 

what the point of using a protein conditioner? —by Anonymous

Hey!  There are different types of protein treatments, so take note of that! But overall, a protein conditioner serves many various purposes. 

  1. If you are experiencing breakage, using protein will help to strengthen hair.
  2. If hair is relaxed or colour-treated, protein is strongly recommended because both relaxers and hair dyes break down the hair.
  3.  If you have fine strands of hair, then using protein is very beneficial. This is because fine hair naturally lack the structural support that coarse strands of hair do.
  4. If your hair is more limp than normal or feels gummy or too “elastic” when stretched—then a quick protein fix can make things right again.

This might sound strange, but it really is about “listening” to your hair—or rather paying close attention to what it needs. You will always know!

Lastly, here is a really helpful article to help you (or anyone else) decide which protein treatment is right for you :-) 

What is your hair type ? I've been on this natural hair journey and even after seeing numerous hair typing picture I still can't tell what's mine. I know I have two textured hair but it's hard to identify my curl patten on the chart. —by Anonymous

Hey! I am a combination of all the fours, but as I’ve been learning more about my hair (especially since I  am wearing it out a lot more), I feel that I can identify more as predominately 4B/4C—hair is wirey, cottony, and shrinks like crazy lol :-)